Sometimes things don't go as planned... and sometimes when life appears to be throwing you lemons, you just have to take a bite and see that it isn't all that bad.
With all that is unfolding in my life, putting my mom into a home, not being able to find all the required paperwork - even a Will, drama with my brother, celebrating Christmas and birthdays, creating a new website, starting new classes this January... life can feel as though it's happening TO YOU. Do you know what I mean? It's super easy to fall into self-pity and cry yourself into a boo hoo party. Believe me, I get it. I spent most of yesterday digging through my mom's papers from her dresser, throwing things away and sorting the rest, feeling sorry for myself that I was literally tossing someone's life in the trash!
But then my kickass life coach brain kicks in saying, "Catherine... this is such a gift. Look at all the pictures you found of your mother and fathers wedding, the signed photos of Frank Sinatra and other singers, the beautiful cards your father sent to your mom, the records your mom kept of her bowling scores over the years... it's like taking a trip through her life, and what she felt was important." And that's when I started to look for the hidden gems in this journey I am taking with my mom. She kept letters I wrote to her years ago when we were fighting about me moving out, baby pictures, house deeds that reminded me of all the wonderful houses I have lived in, my fathers pocket knives and old cameras reminding me of him... it goes on and on. Some of these things I will bring to her in her new home and share them. She has Dementia and some of these things may be great reminders for her - like her wedding picture, for example.
What I'm trying to impress on you here is this blog post is YES, sometimes life appears to be throwing you lemons. How you respond is what is most important. What we often do is react, falling into our own self-pity. However, when you really look at it, lemons aren't that bad. That first bite really wakes you up, brings sensation to your whole body... just like a nasty circumstance does. And the key is to just take another bite. Not so you get used to it, but so you can understand that beneath that bite is a sweet lemon waiting to be enjoyed and savoured. It's truly marvelous when you keep eating. Every once in a while, you will get that same bite, and you just have to know there is sweetness on it's way and keep eating.
Hidden Gems are just like that. You have to KNOW they are there before you can see them. If you allow yourself to get stuck in lack and disempowerment, they can't reveal themselves. Take a bite of that lemon, twist your face into knots and release all of that tension with the expectation of wonderful things... and voila... there they are.
I hope you all had a wonderful holiday and are looking forward to celebrating all that 2014 brought your way... look back for hidden gems and I know you will find them. And once you have acknowledged where you have been, say hello to where you are going with wonder and excitement!
Happy New Year
Kickass Coach Catherine