Since November 2014, I have:
All of that has compounded into an overwhelming feeling that my life it out of control. Can you relate to this?
Sometimes life just seems to happen to us.
As a life coach, I know this isn't true. I know that everything that feels like it is happening TO ME is a result of my real desires. Now the trick is that I wake up and grab this bull by the horns and soothe and comfort it and take back control.
So, how do you do that?
1) JUMP INTO THE CRAZYNESS: What? Jump in? Wouldn't it be better to run in the other direction? No. The first thing you need to get a hold on is this is all your stuff. Running just creates a bigger whirlwind and believe me, running will only compound it. When you jump in, it's like surrender. It's like embracing the craziness and making friends with it. This is called acknowledging your truth. Acknowledgement is a powerful thing. It helps release that steam that's been building.
Now I'm not talking about sitting down and getting all negative about the craziness. No finger pointing or blaming because that will just create more pressure. I'm talking about looking this craziness in the eye and shaking its hand. Embrace the feeling of jumping in and owning it. When you do this first step, you will begin to feel the power of acknowledgement. Because "no thing" is happening to you that you have not asked to manifest.
2) FACE YOUR TRUTH: What does facing your truth mean? It means lifting the veil of blame, shame, hate, rage, disempowerment, and the need for vengeance and owning your shit. This is one of the most challenging exercises for many of us to do. Why? Because we've put a lot of effort into creating an elaborate story that points the blame at everyone and everything else. We've conjured a heap of lies we keep telling ourselves to justify our actions, which hide our truth.
For example, the truth behind my mom having to be removed from my brother's care is that I truly desired to be loved by her. She has always put my bother's needs first, and I have lived my life feeling like an outsider in my own family. I knew that as her Dementia took hold of her that she was too much for my brother to handle. However, I turned a blind eye and pretended not to care. The fact that she had to be removed and I was suddenly her primary caregiver fed my true desire to have my mother acknowledge me and want to see me.
Now I know this sounds very self-centered, and so many of us have been taught that is a bad thing, but it's not. My true desire to take care of my mom was the vibration of my being. My brother's negative nature was having an extreme impact on my mother's happiness in this last stage of her life. My true desire was that I wanted her to be comfortable and have proper care, and that I be a big part of her life. And that is exactly what I manifested.
So how can you face your truth? How can you lift the veil of lies you are telling yourself, and discover your true desires? How can you own what you are creating? Can you be that honest with yourself?
Now, here is the hard part to hear about your crazy schedule. Every single bit of this crazy busyness is created by you. After hearing that, most people shift into blame.
YOU HAVE TO PUT ON THE BRAKES.
You are in charge of that schedule.
You start that crazy train every morning, and fuel it up the night before.
Do you know what happens to people who ride the Crazy Train?