What to do when your life seems to have a life of its own?

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Sometimes we get overloaded, and our lives feel like a pressure cooker ready to burst. It's called overwhelm.

That describes how I've been feeling lately. Since November of last year actually. You know what I mean? There is just so much stuff happening in your life that you feel you could literally blow at any minute. The pressure is almost unbearable!

Since November 2014, I have:

• Removed my mom from her home due to poor care.
• Moved her into a home on December 24th. She has Dementia and needs round-the-clock care.
• Overhauled my website.
• Joined a Women's group in Brantford.
• Sold my mother's house which meant getting my poor mom to sign a bunch of paperwork.
• Joined FGXpress sharing all-natural, drug-free pain relief with people around the world, and attended many sharings.
• Edited 36 recordings for a client.
• Helped find an apartment for my brother who is resisting change.
• Helped purge my brother's house so he can move into a smaller space.
• Finishing writing my next fiction novel Water Whisperer.

All of that has compounded into an overwhelming feeling that my life it out of control. Can you relate to this?

Sometimes life just seems to happen to us. 
As a life coach, I know this isn't true. I know that everything that feels like it is happening TO ME is a result of my real desires. Now the trick is that I wake up and grab this bull by the horns and soothe and comfort it and take back control. 
So, how do you do that?

1) JUMP INTO THE CRAZYNESS: What? Jump in? Wouldn't it be better to run in the other direction? No. The first thing you need to get a hold on is this is all your stuff. Running just creates a bigger whirlwind and believe me, running will only compound it. When you jump in, it's like surrender. It's like embracing the craziness and making friends with it. This is called acknowledging your truth. Acknowledgement is a powerful thing. It helps release that steam that's been building. 

Now I'm not talking about sitting down and getting all negative about the craziness. No finger pointing or blaming because that will just create more pressure. I'm talking about looking this craziness in the eye and shaking its hand. Embrace the feeling of jumping in and owning it. When you do this first step, you will begin to feel the power of acknowledgement. Because "no thing" is happening to you that you have not asked to manifest.

2) FACE YOUR TRUTH: What does facing your truth mean? It means lifting the veil of blame, shame, hate, rage, disempowerment, and the need for vengeance and owning your shit. This is one of the most challenging exercises for many of us to do. Why? Because we've put a lot of effort into creating an elaborate story that points the blame at everyone and everything else. We've conjured a heap of lies we keep telling ourselves to justify our actions, which hide our truth. 

For example, the truth behind my mom having to be removed from my brother's care is that I truly desired to be loved by her. She has always put my bother's needs first, and I have lived my life feeling like an outsider in my own family. I knew that as her Dementia took hold of her that she was too much for my brother to handle. However, I turned a blind eye and pretended not to care. The fact that she had to be removed and I was suddenly her primary caregiver fed my true desire to have my mother acknowledge me and want to see me. 

Now I know this sounds very self-centered, and so many of us have been taught that is a bad thing, but it's not. My true desire to take care of my mom was the vibration of my being. My brother's negative nature was having an extreme impact on my mother's happiness in this last stage of her life. My true desire was that I wanted her to be comfortable and have proper care, and that I be a big part of her life. And that is exactly what I manifested. 

So how can you face your truth? How can you lift the veil of lies you are telling yourself, and discover your true desires? How can you own what you are creating? Can you be that honest with yourself?

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3) PUT ON THE BRAKES: 
Let's go back to the idea that you think life is out of your control. The one thing I hear often is that people feel they are too rushed and busy. Does this sound like you?

• Dash to work
• Gulp down your breakfast on the way
• Rush kids to school
• Blitz through your day begging for the moment you can go home
• Scramble a dinner together
• Hurry to a workout
• Rush through kids homework
• Dash to get something done you put on the back burner far too long
• Scurry to a meeting with a client you fit in at the last second
• Fit in a much-needed hair appointment
• Squeeze in time with a friend

Now, here is the hard part to hear about your crazy schedule. Every single bit of this crazy busyness is created by you. After hearing that, most people shift into blame. 

• It's not my fault I have to work all day! I have to make money to live! 
• My boss expects me to work so much overtime that I don't have time for anything else! 
• There is nothing I can do about it! 
• I have to take care of my kids! Are you saying I'm a bad parent? 
• I do my best to take care of everything. I'm a great multi-tasker.
• I don't have time for anything else. I'm exhausted at the end of the day!

By accepting that this is how your life IS - is accepting and acknowledging that you have no control over anything. 
YOU HAVE TO PUT ON THE BRAKES. 
You are in charge of that schedule. 
You start that crazy train every morning, and fuel it up the night before. 

Do you know what happens to people who ride the Crazy Train?

1. They walk past life-giving opportunities.
2. They deprive themselves of fun and relaxation.
3. They allow overwhelm to beat their bodies into exhaustion.
4. They train their brain to multi-task, which is proven to create more craziness.
5. They become disempowered.
6. Their body goes into a Stress Response, releasing a flood of stress hormones, including adrenaline and cortisol.
7. They have anxiety attacks and heart attacks.
8. They develop type 2 Diabetes. 
9. They are overly emotional, angry and agitated.
10. They don't sleep. 
11. They become frozen under any type of pressure.
12. They have poor judgement.
13. They develop aches and pains, diarrhea, nausea.
14. They start to feel lonely and isolated.

The BIG THINGS in life are your career, your goals, your work, and your family. Laughing with your best friends, a great cup of coffee, the sound of nature around you, surrounding yourself with people who inspire you — those are the little things. The big things are important, however, life wouldn't be worth living without the small things.

The only person who can put the brake on in your life IS YOU. 

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Work with Coach Catherine and learn how to put on the brakes and live the life of your dreams.
As a Kickass Transformational Life Coach, my passion is helping people remember who they really are, and take charge of their lives on their own terms. 


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