Can you believe it?! I'm doing that thing almost all of us say, "And don't you put me into a home!" to my mom!
Yeah, my life is sort of all over the place right now. That's my mom to the right. She is 87 years old, and used to be a plump woman like me. Now she weights about 85lbs. If she knew she looked like this, she would totally flip out. She has Dementia and some days remembers me, and some days doesn't. I have to be honest... I haven't been an active part of her life much the last year. Like so many of us, we have screwed up family stories, and mine is no different. So this past weekend, I had her removed from my brothers care, and have applied to a home closer to me in Kitchener, ON, CA so that I can see her more often as she is an hour away from me right now.
Sometimes you just have to do things that hurt. Like put your mom in a home. I look at her now, and see the life she lived in her eyes. She was unable to have children and adopted my brother and I; her parents both died early in life; she lost her husband at age 54; she has supported my brother his entire life; and she is the last of the elders in my family. This woman is truly a savour on this planet. She was a fun loving woman who loved to laugh, who loved to shop, and who made the best pies in the universe! She helped me when I didn't believe in myself. She adopted me and loved me as her own. She hated to argue, and loved when everyone was happy. She loved to trim the tree and drink eggnog. And she loved family and friends.
So if you are reading this, please, send good thoughts to my mom. Let's just call her Catherine's Mom, and get her into the home I have chosen for her before Christmas so I can get her out of the hospital. Wouldn't that be fantastic!!!