Today is the last day of the year 2014.
An entire 365 days are about to be behind us.
I look out my window here in Kitchener, ON, Canada... it's gently snowing and I'm still in my PJ's drinking my tea. I've asked many people how they are celebrating this evening, and received a slew of answers. What strikes me most on this final exciting day of the year, is that so many people have thoughts focused on the year they are about to put behind them, as if they are glad to slam the door on it. It's like a broken record actually. Each year I ask the same question, and each year people respond by saying they are glad that year is over and hope the next one is better.
It makes you think, doesn't it? Are you slamming a door and hoping? Or, are you reflecting, thanking, celebrating the hidden gems and anticipating new wonderful adventures? Because if you are indeed a door slammer, you are actually focusing your energy on everything that went wrong this year, and that means you're taking it with you into the new one. And I'm sure that's not what people really want.
There is a reason we are blowing horns, throwing confetti, kissing at midnight, and sharing an evening together. WE'RE CELEBRATING. What if you could shift your thoughts to the wonder of a new year before you? What if you could thank all of the seeds you planted in 2014 that will blossom in 2015? What if at 12 midnight, you could release all of your feelings of lack, distrust, revenge, and anger from an entire year, and replace them with trust, abundance, joy, hope, and love? Now that would be a fantastic New Year Resolution.
What are some of the seeds you've planted in 2014? I've planted plenty.
The seeds I've planted list could go on and on. The thing is, you have to recognize the positive events and activities that transpired in the year you are about to say goodbye to, and take the positive energy of that year with you into the new one. Doesn't that sound like a lot more fun? Because if your main focus is to slam a door, I promise you, you'll be opening that door sooner than you want. You just can't yell NO at anything, without it sticking with you. What if you yelled YES instead?
So this New Year's Eve, I'm celebrating! I'm thanking this past 365 days for helping me learn more about who I really am. I'm bowing to it for everything it revealed about what I want, and what I don't want in my life experiences. I'm tipping my hat to all the hidden gems each experience revealed. And then I am turning around and facing the unknown of 2015 with excitement, anticipation, wonder and joy!
How are you celebrating 2014?
Love Coach Catherine
Sometimes things don't go as planned... and sometimes when life appears to be throwing you lemons, you just have to take a bite and see that it isn't all that bad.
With all that is unfolding in my life, putting my mom into a home, not being able to find all the required paperwork - even a Will, drama with my brother, celebrating Christmas and birthdays, creating a new website, starting new classes this January... life can feel as though it's happening TO YOU. Do you know what I mean? It's super easy to fall into self-pity and cry yourself into a boo hoo party. Believe me, I get it. I spent most of yesterday digging through my mom's papers from her dresser, throwing things away and sorting the rest, feeling sorry for myself that I was literally tossing someone's life in the trash!
But then my kickass life coach brain kicks in saying, "Catherine... this is such a gift. Look at all the pictures you found of your mother and fathers wedding, the signed photos of Frank Sinatra and other singers, the beautiful cards your father sent to your mom, the records your mom kept of her bowling scores over the years... it's like taking a trip through her life, and what she felt was important." And that's when I started to look for the hidden gems in this journey I am taking with my mom. She kept letters I wrote to her years ago when we were fighting about me moving out, baby pictures, house deeds that reminded me of all the wonderful houses I have lived in, my fathers pocket knives and old cameras reminding me of him... it goes on and on. Some of these things I will bring to her in her new home and share them. She has Dementia and some of these things may be great reminders for her - like her wedding picture, for example.
What I'm trying to impress on you here is this blog post is YES, sometimes life appears to be throwing you lemons. How you respond is what is most important. What we often do is react, falling into our own self-pity. However, when you really look at it, lemons aren't that bad. That first bite really wakes you up, brings sensation to your whole body... just like a nasty circumstance does. And the key is to just take another bite. Not so you get used to it, but so you can understand that beneath that bite is a sweet lemon waiting to be enjoyed and savoured. It's truly marvelous when you keep eating. Every once in a while, you will get that same bite, and you just have to know there is sweetness on it's way and keep eating.
Hidden Gems are just like that. You have to KNOW they are there before you can see them. If you allow yourself to get stuck in lack and disempowerment, they can't reveal themselves. Take a bite of that lemon, twist your face into knots and release all of that tension with the expectation of wonderful things... and voila... there they are.
I hope you all had a wonderful holiday and are looking forward to celebrating all that 2014 brought your way... look back for hidden gems and I know you will find them. And once you have acknowledged where you have been, say hello to where you are going with wonder and excitement!
Happy New Year
Kickass Coach Catherine
Today I receive yet another wonderful comment from someone inviting me to connect with them on Linkedin, saying they liked my bold statement that I was a KICKASS Transformational Life Coach. This isn't the first of these nice comments, in fact, I hear it all the time. So, why AM I a Kickass Coach?
To be honest, I owe the kickass part of my life coach tag line to my clients and students. I run a lot of classes in my home for small groups, because I like to devote my efforts to those who really want to create transformation in their lives. It was during one class, many years ago, that my students said, "You are really a kickass coach!" And it sort of stuck.
For those who work with me (1-on-1 or in a class setting), it's during that first meeting that I set the stage of my kickass coaching style.
I love what I do. I love helping women remember who they really are, because as they do, I remember more of me. I coach because I am constantly coaching myself. Being your best self isn't hard work, it just takes a true desire to be that. Life is supposed to be fun... so why aren't we all having fun? Because we don't choose it.
If you read this and are inspired, I will be starting new online and in home classes in the new year. If you want in... just let me know.
Kickass Coach Catherine
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Did you know that SHOULD'S aren't your stuff anyway?
That's right. Every single time you say "I should...", you are in fact judging yourself according to someone else's rules. Think about it. Is what you are doing making you feel good (take away the should judgement)? Yes! Do I feel good writing this still in my jammies? Of course I do. Did I feel good watching pugs on YouTube? Of course. In fact, Chester Pug is snoring like a hound dog on his blankie under my desk as we speak. Did I feel good not working on my novel? Sure. I'm not in the mood to write at the second. (give me a sec on that though because my new book Water Whisperer is unfolding in my head as I write this).
This SHOULD thing is a huge guilt trip - and it's totally linked to centuries training us to believe that we ALWAYS have to be #productive. Really? Yes, really! It's as if we are not allowed to be #unproductive or some big teacher ruler is going to snap out from behind us and swat us on the hands. And let me ask you this. If you are "always being productive", when do you give time to yourself? I mean, real quality time?
Think about how you would define 'quality time with my family', for example. That usually includes:
Yeah, probably not in quite awhile, and probably less now that the holiday season is exploding around you. I mean... that Pug Video just made me smile. In fact, I think I've watched it now 4 times. I love Pugs (any dog in general actually), and this just made me feel so happy watching the dogs run around the beach while Tommy Franklin danced with them. Freakin' adorable! (not Tommy... the dogs!).
The point I'm trying to make here is MAKE #YOU TIME. What do you love doing that you often deny yourself? Watching movies? Reading? Having a roll with your guy? (that one get's left out all the time). Writing? Dancing around the house/office? Telling jokes? Talking on the phone with your besty? Watching things that make you laugh? Going for a long walk? Hanging out at your favourite book store? What?
Throw a little "unproductive" into your over productive life. Yup... throw that wrench in there from time to time, and go on a rampage of #appreciation of YOU!
LOVE TO HEAR WHAT YOU ARE NOT BEING PRODUCTIVE AT!
This year, as I shared in my last post, my #mom is waiting in the hospital to move into a Long Term Care Home. This woman has been a major impact on my life, (I am her adopted daughter) and I am happy to help her live out the rest of her days knowing she is being taken care of. Some days she knows I'm her daughter, others she doesn't. But I have purchased her all new clothes and am loving her as much as I can.
So, I guess my question to you is... how are you bringing #appreciation into your life? In Pagan lore, this is the time of the ending of the dark, and the coming of the light. What dark piece of you can you let go that is not serving you, or anyone around you, so that you can let more love and light into your life? Are you holding onto guilt, blame, hate, shame? How can you be DONE with that and jump over the fence into more that is possible for you? Because when more is possible for you, more is possible for everyone you know. What have you already let go in 2014? That's what the New Year is all about really, which to me starts December 22nd as more light shows up each day. What's holding you stuck? What different choices can you make now that will #transform your #future? Where are you letting fear hold you immobile?
Can you believe it?! I'm doing that thing almost all of us say, "And don't you put me into a home!" to my mom!
Yeah, my life is sort of all over the place right now. That's my mom to the right. She is 87 years old, and used to be a plump woman like me. Now she weights about 85lbs. If she knew she looked like this, she would totally flip out. She has Dementia and some days remembers me, and some days doesn't. I have to be honest... I haven't been an active part of her life much the last year. Like so many of us, we have screwed up family stories, and mine is no different. So this past weekend, I had her removed from my brothers care, and have applied to a home closer to me in Kitchener, ON, CA so that I can see her more often as she is an hour away from me right now.
Sometimes you just have to do things that hurt. Like put your mom in a home. I look at her now, and see the life she lived in her eyes. She was unable to have children and adopted my brother and I; her parents both died early in life; she lost her husband at age 54; she has supported my brother his entire life; and she is the last of the elders in my family. This woman is truly a savour on this planet. She was a fun loving woman who loved to laugh, who loved to shop, and who made the best pies in the universe! She helped me when I didn't believe in myself. She adopted me and loved me as her own. She hated to argue, and loved when everyone was happy. She loved to trim the tree and drink eggnog. And she loved family and friends.
So if you are reading this, please, send good thoughts to my mom. Let's just call her Catherine's Mom, and get her into the home I have chosen for her before Christmas so I can get her out of the hospital. Wouldn't that be fantastic!!!
Well, that was easy!
You know... today I finally hit that big orange button at the top of the page PUBLISH! Eeeek! Yeah... it was a spooky feeling. Why? Because there in the back of my critter brain was this little snotty nosed guy saying, "Ya know, it's going to screw up! Something is going to go wrong and you will regret you ever pushed that button! Don't do it because what if something happens? It's not safe!!!!!" Well, I didn't listen to him and I knew it was going to be amazing to have a whole new look to my site and I hit that flippin' button and left him screaming in the corner. And Voila! New website launched.
This isn't the first time my critter brain dude tried to stop me from taking a risk. OH NO! It doesn't matter that I'm a Life Coach, he's there. Why a he instead of a she? I guess because it's easier for me to get pissed off at a man. HA! Kidding but not kidding.
So, if you've come across my new website, I hope you enjoy it. This blog is my space of truth. I coach myself everyday in order to continually transform my life - because when I don't pay attention... critter brain guy goes on a rampage and shit happens. I don't like shit any more than the next chick, and so I have to play with my thoughts and feelings all the time in order to keep a positive mindset.
Okay, so I really have to pee now that the publish button pushing is out of the way. I thought I was just nervous, but guess not!