And that makes her the perfect target for Asher Eastwyke. A good looking boy who blackmails Randa to help him debunk the rumors of the Haunted House on Erie Street. Randa goes along when he steals her notebook of rhymes, but isn't a wimpy chick. As soon as she gets back her notebook, she's out of there. But something about Asher's quest, and his good looks, draw her in. It isn't long before she discovers the house has many secrets, once owned by witches and guarded by ravens, rodents, and spiders.
I can't give it all away, but when a dead witch entrusts Randa with her most prized possession--a Witch's Grimoire, Randa is sucked into a journey into the realm of witches where she must decipher the Grimoire's secrets.
I am just dying to share it with you!
SOLARIS: Sand In My Eyes
It is an absolutely gorgeous day here in Kitchener, ON. It's 9:26 am and I'm drinking my Ketopia morning drink that puts me into a state of nutritional ketosis. I've lost 8 lbs in 10 days using this amazing new system that launched July 10th, and am super excited. If you read my blog and that sounds interesting to you, just email me.
So, what's up for today? Not a whole lot. We did Thanksgiving last weekend as Bill's daughter was visiting from out west. So we have the weekend to ourselves. What are my plans? 1) To update my blog. 2) To start my 3rd novel. I've just finished a romance, 'Solaris - Sand In My Eyes', which I will soon start submitting to Agents. Now I'm doing a spin-off with her best friend, Teagan. I wrote Sand In My Eyes in 4 months, so should be able to do the same, depending on how much outside influences get in my way. You know, coaching clients, doing card readings, sharing Ketopia with people all over the world.
I basically work from home, which I adore. I worked as a creative manager for 17 years and was in retail before that in some fashion. I am glad to be finally beating my own drum. What do you do to beat your own drum? It's important to give time to YOU and your desires. Unfortunately what I see most is people putting their own desires on the back burner. Sometimes, they aren't on the list at all. "I have to do this for..." and "If I don't do it, it won't get done" and "I always do it" and "I don't have a choice. No one else will or can do it" are phrases I hear all the time. Something I learned way back in my 30's is YOU MAKE YOUR SCHEDULE.
I know it doesn't seem that way because you have told yourself that you have no choice... who else is going to take your kids to their practices or activities? Who else is going to do Yoga class or workout for you? I know, I was there too! But the thing is, you make that schedule and have control of it. You know there are options, but you're stuck in a box and can't see them. You booked yoga on your schedule, so if you HAVE to do it, then you aren't enjoying it. With your kids, what about finding someone to carpool with? You do one week, they do the next. Oh, that would mean you would have to ask someone. I'm not going to go into specifics here, because what I've discovered in my years of coaching is that YOUR SCHEDULE is something you defend. Why is that? It fills some need for you. What need could it fill? The need to be seen as a super busy mom. The need to get out of the house. The need to not be able to work late at the office. The need to prove to yourself that you're an awesome mom. The need to not have to do something else. The need to be needed by your kids. They are all good reasons and I'm not saying any are bad or wrong. However, YOU NEED YOU. So take a look at your schedule and think about how you can make you a priority. If Yoga class is your YOU TIME, great, but if you are fitting it in, then it's a duty and not a desire.
I urge you to take a look at your schedule and find a way to put you back on the list. I have students who take meditation classes with me to explore the many different ways to meditate and then say they don't have time. Interesting huh? They made time for the class, but can't find 10 minutes in their day to do the thing they are learning because they are too busy. Sort of counter-productive, isn't it? If you are running yourself ragged, you'll soon burn-out. I promise you. You'll hit an age where you'll look back on your life and wish you did something for you. Now is your chance to make that happen, but will you?
Coach Catherine signing out.
Since November 2014, I have:
All of that has compounded into an overwhelming feeling that my life it out of control. Can you relate to this?
Sometimes life just seems to happen to us.
As a life coach, I know this isn't true. I know that everything that feels like it is happening TO ME is a result of my real desires. Now the trick is that I wake up and grab this bull by the horns and soothe and comfort it and take back control.
So, how do you do that?
1) JUMP INTO THE CRAZYNESS: What? Jump in? Wouldn't it be better to run in the other direction? No. The first thing you need to get a hold on is this is all your stuff. Running just creates a bigger whirlwind and believe me, running will only compound it. When you jump in, it's like surrender. It's like embracing the craziness and making friends with it. This is called acknowledging your truth. Acknowledgement is a powerful thing. It helps release that steam that's been building.
Now I'm not talking about sitting down and getting all negative about the craziness. No finger pointing or blaming because that will just create more pressure. I'm talking about looking this craziness in the eye and shaking its hand. Embrace the feeling of jumping in and owning it. When you do this first step, you will begin to feel the power of acknowledgement. Because "no thing" is happening to you that you have not asked to manifest.
2) FACE YOUR TRUTH: What does facing your truth mean? It means lifting the veil of blame, shame, hate, rage, disempowerment, and the need for vengeance and owning your shit. This is one of the most challenging exercises for many of us to do. Why? Because we've put a lot of effort into creating an elaborate story that points the blame at everyone and everything else. We've conjured a heap of lies we keep telling ourselves to justify our actions, which hide our truth.
For example, the truth behind my mom having to be removed from my brother's care is that I truly desired to be loved by her. She has always put my bother's needs first, and I have lived my life feeling like an outsider in my own family. I knew that as her Dementia took hold of her that she was too much for my brother to handle. However, I turned a blind eye and pretended not to care. The fact that she had to be removed and I was suddenly her primary caregiver fed my true desire to have my mother acknowledge me and want to see me.
Now I know this sounds very self-centered, and so many of us have been taught that is a bad thing, but it's not. My true desire to take care of my mom was the vibration of my being. My brother's negative nature was having an extreme impact on my mother's happiness in this last stage of her life. My true desire was that I wanted her to be comfortable and have proper care, and that I be a big part of her life. And that is exactly what I manifested.
So how can you face your truth? How can you lift the veil of lies you are telling yourself, and discover your true desires? How can you own what you are creating? Can you be that honest with yourself?
Now, here is the hard part to hear about your crazy schedule. Every single bit of this crazy busyness is created by you. After hearing that, most people shift into blame.
YOU HAVE TO PUT ON THE BRAKES.
You are in charge of that schedule.
You start that crazy train every morning, and fuel it up the night before.
Do you know what happens to people who ride the Crazy Train?
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Why am I sold? My testimonials:
REFLECTION OF MY DESIRES
So, back to walking my life coach talk... how is it that FGXpress is a reflection of me? Well, I'm a life coach, and there is nothing I love more than helping people be their best self. For years, I've been helping women kick their fear, unworthiness, blame, and shame to the curb, and helping them embrace their passions. This just feeds my spirit. So being able to share a product that helps people with their pain and get them off over-the-counter pain meds that destroy their liver is a no-brainer. FGXpress has only 3 products, the PowerStrips, SolarStrips, and a super easy BeautyStrips System. Click on any of those links and check these great products out for yourself. All-natural, Drug-free pain relief, a daily vitamin delivering 37.5mg of marine phytoplankton, a raw superfood, and an amazing mask and serum for younger skin. Like everyone, I desire more money and to live an easy lifestyle. Plus, I have a business plan for a facility I want to open working with other coaches. Money would make that happen. So when this ground-floor business opportunity showed up sharing products that I am hooked on myself, it was another no-brainer. How often does a ground-floor opportunity show up? Rarely.
Now I am able to help people emotionally and physically. There is nothing finer.
This happens all the time. We all want nothing more than to be told we are making the right choice, and that we won't fail. We are terrified to take risks. Why? Because our Critter Brain (brain stem, ego) doesn't like to feel unsafe. It doesn't understand that without taking any risks, our lives get pretty stale. But what I want to talk about here are these SIGNS we demand to show up to make it clear to us that we have a green light.
What we really don't get is that we receive signs all the time! Literally. No matter what we are choosing, we receive signs about whether the thing in question would be good for us or not. In fact, everything you see, smell, read, and listen to is a sign. Signs are everywhere. I'm talking about those magical moments when you are in question of something, like... should I quit this job... and your boss walks past reprimanding one of your co-workers. Yeah, that's a sign. That sign made you feel rotten and was a HELL YES! The problem is... you simply don't pay attention to them.
So, when you really want a sign, what do you do? You beg for one and draw conclusions about how it can show up. Do you know what that sounds like? "Universe/God, give me a sign that if I do this, I will make massive amounts of money. That I will be successful. That I won't be a failure. And make this sign so clear that I can't miss it... like on a huge billboard with my name on it somewhere."
HERE IS WHAT YOU ARE REALLY SAYING:
"I'm pretty familiar with failing, and I really don't resonate with massive amounts of money. I want this sign to be so big and obscure because I really know deep down inside that it probably won't show up."
So, when nothing shows up, guess what? You got what you expected.
WHAT IF YOU EXPECTED TO SEE SIGNS EVERYWHERE? I mean really, what if everything was a sign. That means...
As a life coach, I am always helping women step out of familiar beliefs, definitions, and lifestyles and jump off of the fence into the unknown where all the exciting, adventurous stuff is. Today was the third time I have driven to Stratford to visit my mom in the Long Term Healthcare Home I moved her into on December 24th. Yup, on Christmas Eve I was busy getting my mom out of a hospital, and into a Home. She has Dementia and this was the best move for her, and she is adjusting well. But the thing is, this is the first time I was able to drive there, and home, and not use the GPS on my Blackberry to guide me through unknown territory. And that's when it hit me... my world just got smaller.
When I first moved to Kitchener, ON, CA, I remember feeling how big it was. I loved that whenever I drove anywhere that it was like a new adventure, even if I drove down streets I have driven down before. Nothing was familiar, and so I was discovering this new place piece by piece and over and over again, because I am one of those directionally challenged chicks. Each day I would take in my new surroundings, marveling at the architecture of the buildings, the many parks, the fact that it has a thriving downtown and big Universities. Everywhere I went everything was new. And then one day I drove down a street, that in my mind I had not connected to anything or anywhere, and BAM... I knew where I was. Do you know what happened? My world instantly felt smaller.
Well, I was quite enjoying this new big world that I was slowly discovering (like really... a year and a half). I hadn't connected many dots from one destination to another, so no matter where I was I had no idea how far I was from home, and my world felt big. During that drive this morning, I connected a dot - and in that second I understood that a neural pathway in my brain was now hardwired. I now had a visual of my starting point (home), and ending point (Peoplecare, Stratford). It was as if in that very brief moment, that wonderful, delicious, expansive feeling of vastness, adventure, and undiscovered views had suddenly zoomed in. My world shrunk, and I must say, I felt a bit deflated.
Now, I know for many people, this feeling of 'big and the unknown' is more than just a bit scary... it totally freaks them out. Believe me, I've coached a ton of women who put up a good fight not to jump off the fence in the beginning, and when they finally do, they are thanking me for saving their lives (they give me way too much credit for something they did for themselves).
Here is your takeaway from my experience. If you are totally happy with every single aspect of your life, meaning that ordinary and familiar make you completely and utterly happy, then all is good in your world. However, if ordinary and familiar feel boring, restricting, painful, underwhelming, toxic, disempowering or life sucking... then, my friend, your spirit is screaming that you have switched on auto-pilot. When you are on auto-pilot, you get lost in thoughts of how much you wish your life could be different or better, and you don't take notice of anything new or exciting. You follow the same patterns every day, you beat yourself up for wanting more, and deep down inside you are crying and desiring change. You have free will, so at all times you get to choose how your life unfolds. The reason you stay in that familiar place is because of that crazy Critter Brain who is terrified of anything different. It doesn't like change because it associates change with risk and risk with danger to your life. Instead of jumping off the fence into so much more that is possible for you that you never knew existed or was possible, you stay stuck in what is familiar because familiar is what you know.
Well, that's it for today's blog. If you are ready to put that Critter Brain to rest, you know how to reach me. Just comment on this blog and reach out.
Ta Ta for now !
Today is the last day of the year 2014.
An entire 365 days are about to be behind us.
I look out my window here in Kitchener, ON, Canada... it's gently snowing and I'm still in my PJ's drinking my tea. I've asked many people how they are celebrating this evening, and received a slew of answers. What strikes me most on this final exciting day of the year, is that so many people have thoughts focused on the year they are about to put behind them, as if they are glad to slam the door on it. It's like a broken record actually. Each year I ask the same question, and each year people respond by saying they are glad that year is over and hope the next one is better.
It makes you think, doesn't it? Are you slamming a door and hoping? Or, are you reflecting, thanking, celebrating the hidden gems and anticipating new wonderful adventures? Because if you are indeed a door slammer, you are actually focusing your energy on everything that went wrong this year, and that means you're taking it with you into the new one. And I'm sure that's not what people really want.
There is a reason we are blowing horns, throwing confetti, kissing at midnight, and sharing an evening together. WE'RE CELEBRATING. What if you could shift your thoughts to the wonder of a new year before you? What if you could thank all of the seeds you planted in 2014 that will blossom in 2015? What if at 12 midnight, you could release all of your feelings of lack, distrust, revenge, and anger from an entire year, and replace them with trust, abundance, joy, hope, and love? Now that would be a fantastic New Year Resolution.
What are some of the seeds you've planted in 2014? I've planted plenty.
The seeds I've planted list could go on and on. The thing is, you have to recognize the positive events and activities that transpired in the year you are about to say goodbye to, and take the positive energy of that year with you into the new one. Doesn't that sound like a lot more fun? Because if your main focus is to slam a door, I promise you, you'll be opening that door sooner than you want. You just can't yell NO at anything, without it sticking with you. What if you yelled YES instead?
So this New Year's Eve, I'm celebrating! I'm thanking this past 365 days for helping me learn more about who I really am. I'm bowing to it for everything it revealed about what I want, and what I don't want in my life experiences. I'm tipping my hat to all the hidden gems each experience revealed. And then I am turning around and facing the unknown of 2015 with excitement, anticipation, wonder and joy!
How are you celebrating 2014?
Love Coach Catherine
Sometimes things don't go as planned... and sometimes when life appears to be throwing you lemons, you just have to take a bite and see that it isn't all that bad.
With all that is unfolding in my life, putting my mom into a home, not being able to find all the required paperwork - even a Will, drama with my brother, celebrating Christmas and birthdays, creating a new website, starting new classes this January... life can feel as though it's happening TO YOU. Do you know what I mean? It's super easy to fall into self-pity and cry yourself into a boo hoo party. Believe me, I get it. I spent most of yesterday digging through my mom's papers from her dresser, throwing things away and sorting the rest, feeling sorry for myself that I was literally tossing someone's life in the trash!
But then my kickass life coach brain kicks in saying, "Catherine... this is such a gift. Look at all the pictures you found of your mother and fathers wedding, the signed photos of Frank Sinatra and other singers, the beautiful cards your father sent to your mom, the records your mom kept of her bowling scores over the years... it's like taking a trip through her life, and what she felt was important." And that's when I started to look for the hidden gems in this journey I am taking with my mom. She kept letters I wrote to her years ago when we were fighting about me moving out, baby pictures, house deeds that reminded me of all the wonderful houses I have lived in, my fathers pocket knives and old cameras reminding me of him... it goes on and on. Some of these things I will bring to her in her new home and share them. She has Dementia and some of these things may be great reminders for her - like her wedding picture, for example.
What I'm trying to impress on you here is this blog post is YES, sometimes life appears to be throwing you lemons. How you respond is what is most important. What we often do is react, falling into our own self-pity. However, when you really look at it, lemons aren't that bad. That first bite really wakes you up, brings sensation to your whole body... just like a nasty circumstance does. And the key is to just take another bite. Not so you get used to it, but so you can understand that beneath that bite is a sweet lemon waiting to be enjoyed and savoured. It's truly marvelous when you keep eating. Every once in a while, you will get that same bite, and you just have to know there is sweetness on it's way and keep eating.
Hidden Gems are just like that. You have to KNOW they are there before you can see them. If you allow yourself to get stuck in lack and disempowerment, they can't reveal themselves. Take a bite of that lemon, twist your face into knots and release all of that tension with the expectation of wonderful things... and voila... there they are.
I hope you all had a wonderful holiday and are looking forward to celebrating all that 2014 brought your way... look back for hidden gems and I know you will find them. And once you have acknowledged where you have been, say hello to where you are going with wonder and excitement!
Happy New Year
Kickass Coach Catherine
Today I receive yet another wonderful comment from someone inviting me to connect with them on Linkedin, saying they liked my bold statement that I was a KICKASS Transformational Life Coach. This isn't the first of these nice comments, in fact, I hear it all the time. So, why AM I a Kickass Coach?
To be honest, I owe the kickass part of my life coach tag line to my clients and students. I run a lot of classes in my home for small groups, because I like to devote my efforts to those who really want to create transformation in their lives. It was during one class, many years ago, that my students said, "You are really a kickass coach!" And it sort of stuck.
For those who work with me (1-on-1 or in a class setting), it's during that first meeting that I set the stage of my kickass coaching style.
I love what I do. I love helping women remember who they really are, because as they do, I remember more of me. I coach because I am constantly coaching myself. Being your best self isn't hard work, it just takes a true desire to be that. Life is supposed to be fun... so why aren't we all having fun? Because we don't choose it.
If you read this and are inspired, I will be starting new online and in home classes in the new year. If you want in... just let me know.
Kickass Coach Catherine
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Did you know that SHOULD'S aren't your stuff anyway?
That's right. Every single time you say "I should...", you are in fact judging yourself according to someone else's rules. Think about it. Is what you are doing making you feel good (take away the should judgement)? Yes! Do I feel good writing this still in my jammies? Of course I do. Did I feel good watching pugs on YouTube? Of course. In fact, Chester Pug is snoring like a hound dog on his blankie under my desk as we speak. Did I feel good not working on my novel? Sure. I'm not in the mood to write at the second. (give me a sec on that though because my new book Water Whisperer is unfolding in my head as I write this).
This SHOULD thing is a huge guilt trip - and it's totally linked to centuries training us to believe that we ALWAYS have to be #productive. Really? Yes, really! It's as if we are not allowed to be #unproductive or some big teacher ruler is going to snap out from behind us and swat us on the hands. And let me ask you this. If you are "always being productive", when do you give time to yourself? I mean, real quality time?
Think about how you would define 'quality time with my family', for example. That usually includes:
Yeah, probably not in quite awhile, and probably less now that the holiday season is exploding around you. I mean... that Pug Video just made me smile. In fact, I think I've watched it now 4 times. I love Pugs (any dog in general actually), and this just made me feel so happy watching the dogs run around the beach while Tommy Franklin danced with them. Freakin' adorable! (not Tommy... the dogs!).
The point I'm trying to make here is MAKE #YOU TIME. What do you love doing that you often deny yourself? Watching movies? Reading? Having a roll with your guy? (that one get's left out all the time). Writing? Dancing around the house/office? Telling jokes? Talking on the phone with your besty? Watching things that make you laugh? Going for a long walk? Hanging out at your favourite book store? What?
Throw a little "unproductive" into your over productive life. Yup... throw that wrench in there from time to time, and go on a rampage of #appreciation of YOU!
LOVE TO HEAR WHAT YOU ARE NOT BEING PRODUCTIVE AT!
This year, as I shared in my last post, my #mom is waiting in the hospital to move into a Long Term Care Home. This woman has been a major impact on my life, (I am her adopted daughter) and I am happy to help her live out the rest of her days knowing she is being taken care of. Some days she knows I'm her daughter, others she doesn't. But I have purchased her all new clothes and am loving her as much as I can.
So, I guess my question to you is... how are you bringing #appreciation into your life? In Pagan lore, this is the time of the ending of the dark, and the coming of the light. What dark piece of you can you let go that is not serving you, or anyone around you, so that you can let more love and light into your life? Are you holding onto guilt, blame, hate, shame? How can you be DONE with that and jump over the fence into more that is possible for you? Because when more is possible for you, more is possible for everyone you know. What have you already let go in 2014? That's what the New Year is all about really, which to me starts December 22nd as more light shows up each day. What's holding you stuck? What different choices can you make now that will #transform your #future? Where are you letting fear hold you immobile?
Can you believe it?! I'm doing that thing almost all of us say, "And don't you put me into a home!" to my mom!
Yeah, my life is sort of all over the place right now. That's my mom to the right. She is 87 years old, and used to be a plump woman like me. Now she weights about 85lbs. If she knew she looked like this, she would totally flip out. She has Dementia and some days remembers me, and some days doesn't. I have to be honest... I haven't been an active part of her life much the last year. Like so many of us, we have screwed up family stories, and mine is no different. So this past weekend, I had her removed from my brothers care, and have applied to a home closer to me in Kitchener, ON, CA so that I can see her more often as she is an hour away from me right now.
Sometimes you just have to do things that hurt. Like put your mom in a home. I look at her now, and see the life she lived in her eyes. She was unable to have children and adopted my brother and I; her parents both died early in life; she lost her husband at age 54; she has supported my brother his entire life; and she is the last of the elders in my family. This woman is truly a savour on this planet. She was a fun loving woman who loved to laugh, who loved to shop, and who made the best pies in the universe! She helped me when I didn't believe in myself. She adopted me and loved me as her own. She hated to argue, and loved when everyone was happy. She loved to trim the tree and drink eggnog. And she loved family and friends.
So if you are reading this, please, send good thoughts to my mom. Let's just call her Catherine's Mom, and get her into the home I have chosen for her before Christmas so I can get her out of the hospital. Wouldn't that be fantastic!!!
Well, that was easy!
You know... today I finally hit that big orange button at the top of the page PUBLISH! Eeeek! Yeah... it was a spooky feeling. Why? Because there in the back of my critter brain was this little snotty nosed guy saying, "Ya know, it's going to screw up! Something is going to go wrong and you will regret you ever pushed that button! Don't do it because what if something happens? It's not safe!!!!!" Well, I didn't listen to him and I knew it was going to be amazing to have a whole new look to my site and I hit that flippin' button and left him screaming in the corner. And Voila! New website launched.
This isn't the first time my critter brain dude tried to stop me from taking a risk. OH NO! It doesn't matter that I'm a Life Coach, he's there. Why a he instead of a she? I guess because it's easier for me to get pissed off at a man. HA! Kidding but not kidding.
So, if you've come across my new website, I hope you enjoy it. This blog is my space of truth. I coach myself everyday in order to continually transform my life - because when I don't pay attention... critter brain guy goes on a rampage and shit happens. I don't like shit any more than the next chick, and so I have to play with my thoughts and feelings all the time in order to keep a positive mindset.
Okay, so I really have to pee now that the publish button pushing is out of the way. I thought I was just nervous, but guess not!