It is an absolutely gorgeous day here in Kitchener, ON. It's 9:26 am and I'm drinking my Ketopia morning drink that puts me into a state of nutritional ketosis. I've lost 8 lbs in 10 days using this amazing new system that launched July 10th, and am super excited. If you read my blog and that sounds interesting to you, just email me.
So, what's up for today? Not a whole lot. We did Thanksgiving last weekend as Bill's daughter was visiting from out west. So we have the weekend to ourselves. What are my plans? 1) To update my blog. 2) To start my 3rd novel. I've just finished a romance, 'Solaris - Sand In My Eyes', which I will soon start submitting to Agents. Now I'm doing a spin-off with her best friend, Teagan. I wrote Sand In My Eyes in 4 months, so should be able to do the same, depending on how much outside influences get in my way. You know, coaching clients, doing card readings, sharing Ketopia with people all over the world.
I basically work from home, which I adore. I worked as a creative manager for 17 years and was in retail before that in some fashion. I am glad to be finally beating my own drum. What do you do to beat your own drum? It's important to give time to YOU and your desires. Unfortunately what I see most is people putting their own desires on the back burner. Sometimes, they aren't on the list at all. "I have to do this for..." and "If I don't do it, it won't get done" and "I always do it" and "I don't have a choice. No one else will or can do it" are phrases I hear all the time. Something I learned way back in my 30's is YOU MAKE YOUR SCHEDULE.
I know it doesn't seem that way because you have told yourself that you have no choice... who else is going to take your kids to their practices or activities? Who else is going to do Yoga class or workout for you? I know, I was there too! But the thing is, you make that schedule and have control of it. You know there are options, but you're stuck in a box and can't see them. You booked yoga on your schedule, so if you HAVE to do it, then you aren't enjoying it. With your kids, what about finding someone to carpool with? You do one week, they do the next. Oh, that would mean you would have to ask someone. I'm not going to go into specifics here, because what I've discovered in my years of coaching is that YOUR SCHEDULE is something you defend. Why is that? It fills some need for you. What need could it fill? The need to be seen as a super busy mom. The need to get out of the house. The need to not be able to work late at the office. The need to prove to yourself that you're an awesome mom. The need to not have to do something else. The need to be needed by your kids. They are all good reasons and I'm not saying any are bad or wrong. However, YOU NEED YOU. So take a look at your schedule and think about how you can make you a priority. If Yoga class is your YOU TIME, great, but if you are fitting it in, then it's a duty and not a desire.
I urge you to take a look at your schedule and find a way to put you back on the list. I have students who take meditation classes with me to explore the many different ways to meditate and then say they don't have time. Interesting huh? They made time for the class, but can't find 10 minutes in their day to do the thing they are learning because they are too busy. Sort of counter-productive, isn't it? If you are running yourself ragged, you'll soon burn-out. I promise you. You'll hit an age where you'll look back on your life and wish you did something for you. Now is your chance to make that happen, but will you?
Coach Catherine signing out.